4 Things No One Tells You About Being a Parent

Parenting is a funny thing.

When you’re on the outside looking in, it’s like this black box of mystery where you can kind of make out the edges, but you aren’t entirely sure what the complete picture is.

And those on the inside, the “initiated” parents, don’t help the situation at all. They just beat around the bush when it comes to describing what it’s like. They’ll use ambiguous phrases like It’s great or It’s hard. But try to get them to paint a realistic picture of life on the other side of the delivery table, and their words fall short.  Continue reading

Writing is Like Jenga

Giant Jenga is one of the small pleasures of being an adult. There’s just something about pushing and prodding large blocks of wood in a random bar with a drink in hand that puts a smile on my face. As the tower gets taller everyone’s attention starts to zone in on each move until the inevitable crash comes, startling more than a few of the casual bar bystanders. Continue reading

Knowing Our Achilles

In the world of health and fitness the common logic is to think in terms in addition – adding a new workout program, adding a new type of diet, etc.

It’s natural to think that the healthiest future version of ourself is just missing some key element that we need to find. Hence the reason that so many workout and diet programs skyrocket around this time of year. After all, what better way to kick off the new year than adding some shiny new thing to our wellness bag of tricks?

But that line of thinking misses a really critical element… Continue reading

Equal and Opposite

The extent of our struggles determine the extent of our growth.

I’ve experienced this in my own life repeatedly, and I’m not sure I’ve ever heard a success story that wasn’t immediately preceded by a failure story. The entrepreneur, artist, actor, or singer is on top of the world, but their story usually started with some combination of a painful relationship, a failed endeavor, a battle with drugs or alcohol, or a seemingly insurmountable debt.  Continue reading

Habits, Aging, and Entropy

Have you ever had the fear of looking back in your later years in life wondering “How did I get here?”

If you have, you’re not alone. It’s a common thought that’s regularly preached by writers, gurus, and coaches. That fear, when stoked, can be used to drive change, and so it’s used liberally by the personal development world at-large.  Continue reading

Being Okay

When I was in my early 20s I thought everyone was supposed to be the next great writer, inventor, entrepreneur, or philanthropist. I couldn’t understand how someone could be okay with not doing anything notably remarkable in their life. I went as far as writing an impassioned blog post titled Striving for Mediocrity that ripped apart anything less than the desire to change the world.  Continue reading